Proverbs 28:23 (NLT) 23 In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.
I’m not sure if this verse reflects our community (see Proverbs 28:5), but it does reflect the culture of our church staff.
One of our staff values is Gracious Candor. We define it as providing honest feedback in a gracious way. We are committed to sharing our ideas and opinions, even if it turns out to be a “tough conversation.”
We also cite multiple Bible verses that serve as the foundation for each value. Reading through these never gets old! (We actually review one of our values each week)
One of my favorites is: Proverbs 27:5–6 (ESV) 5 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. 6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.
For months I, Jack, interpreted “profuse” as disgusting…which gave a good laugh for our team when I finally realized that profuse just meant plentiful. It was an embarrassing moment that provided an opportunity to reflect a different staff value, Humble Growth.
In the end, I am grateful for our staff team. I get to work with exceptional people whose strengths and perspectives make up for my weaknesses and blindspots. They make me a better pastor and teammate, and I love them very much.
I don’t know who God uses in your life to provide gracious and honest feedback, but I hope you don’t forget to appreciate them. They are truly your friends.
- Jack Napier